• Mindy Tsai
    Moved to Books > Memoir #2.
  • Mindy Tsai
    Moved to Books > Memoir #2.
  • Mindy Tsai
    I am stuck. My writing for the second memoir is messy, incoherent, and fragmented. I am still searching for that solid backbone that would run through the book on Being Single. “I am very happy living my life as a single! And what’s what I want to talk about.” I said to Wendy while we were hiking. “Why then are you dating?” Wendy asked. “I am open to meeting someone great!” I didn’t skip a
  • Mindy Tsai
    Since the last time I danced salsa on Monday March 9th, so much in this world has changed. A week later, the dance studio was closed along with most of Boston. The virus was here! Initially, I tried my best to stay home and only go out for groceries and picking up my medication. During weekends, I was guilty of breaking the social distancing guideline by meeting up with a couple friends for dinners, sleepovers,
  • Mindy Tsai
    A couple of weeks ago, G asked me what was my favor thing in salsa and I said, spins or turns! For me, dancing salsa is about different ways to spin. For G, it’s about how to lead and his arm movements, how to direct and spin a follower. For eight classes, G and I had fun learning about basic salsa steps. We had to remember eight beats of steps one at a time. Our
  • Mindy Tsai
    I remember when my friends were concerned when I said that I thought I saw signals from strangers and my surrounding. My thinking was considered abnormal or imaginary even though I was just observing the world. That was schizophrenic because no one was really giving me signs. I was reading into “them” (things in this world) too much because my brain was broken. Now I am learning how to read real signals from my dance
  • Mindy Tsai
    “I am taking a salsa class. Any interest?” A friend asked. “Nice. That sounds like fun. I have never taken a salsa class before.” I said. “How coordinated are you?” “I have two left feet!” “LOL. Why not. I am in!” This was how I kicked off 2020 by committing to a salsa class for three months. I didn’t grow up with ballet or gymnastic classes. That was not my family. Instead, my most precious
  • Mindy Tsai
    This month, I did three interviews. Every single time afterwards, I thought I could be more clear. I want to be as articulate as possible when it comes to talking about schizophrenia. Here is my attempt at re-answering some of the questions I was asked. Dr. Carole Lieberman asked me, “You went to Cornell. How come you could not figure out that you had schizophrenia?” I had been trusting my brain and ears for thirty
  • Mindy Tsai
    Q: How long did you work on Becoming Whole? I worked on Becoming Whole before it was that for at least eight years. I started trying to write in 2004. Technically, the book idea didn’t come until 2012 after I was hospitalized and after I read Glass Castle. But I could say that I wrote about schizophrenia on and off for 16 years. It was always in the back of my mind. Q: Are you
  • Mindy Tsai
    Based on my upbringing, I was taught to always be content with what I had. There are other people less fortunate than I am in so many ways. I have a roof over my head, three meals a day, a good job, and friends and family. I had never imagined myself married with kids, though I had wanted a baby when I was thirty-six which I have now made peace with having without. Wanting a
  • Mindy Tsai
    I started dating because that was what I thought I should do. Isabella and Michael both thought so. “You don’t want to end up alone. Do you?” “You are such a nice person. You can easily meet a good guy! You are such a catch!” To me dating sounded like a good way to meet new friends. When I thought of dating conceptually it was no different than meeting someone new at work. I also
  • Mindy Tsai
    Even though the writing journey is done when the memoir was published on May 30, 2019, Becoming Whole the book has taken on a life of its own. Since day one, I heard from many friends and family near and far who all bought and read my book. The support I received is incredible. Not only did they buy and read it, they thought the book is pretty good. The online reviews are great. I
  • Mindy Tsai
    I find myself hesitating when I write about being single, dating, love and relationship. The writing journey has been different from writing about schizophrenia. Most of my friends are married with kids. I know wonderful husbands. Surely, I am the least “successful” nor “qualified” person to speak about dating and relationship. With schizophrenia, I am the only person among my friends who has it, so there was no comparison nearby. I love watching romantic comedies.
  • Mindy Tsai
    At age forty, I started dating seriously for the first time after Chris. I was pretty sure that I had learned my life lessons since I was a twenty-something. I met this guy I really liked up north. I immediately felt into my relationship woman persona even after all these years of being independent. Finding out that he had a busy ER schedule, I went to see him for a few consecutive weekends. Since my
  • Mindy Tsai
    Jane Austen famously wrote: It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a wife. What about the single woman? Let’s talk about this single woman: me.  At forty-five, I am single and childless. I can’t decide if I want a man in my life or not. Obviously, I would want a man who is right for me in my life. But we
  • Mindy Tsai
    I kept a diary ever since I could write. I wrote down my private thoughts regardless of any literature merit or storytelling technique. I was the only person who read what I wrote and that suited me just fine! At some point, I started wanting to share what I wrote because I felt that I had something to say. I had a purpose. I spent many hours in front of my laptop typing away my
  • Mindy Tsai
    Why was I so determine to write it for so many years? At the very beginning, I wrote it for myself. It was not unlike what I sometime saw in movies. Because the thoughts were so jumbled up, I made lists. I went through what I remembered repeatedly. Then I shared my notes with my friends because I wanted them to know. This was part of me. One day, after reading another memoir, I thought
  • Mindy Tsai
    What made it all very real for me was seeing the cover of my memoir coming alive. Again, the theme of my life – having amazingly loving friends. My friend and artist Frederikke reached out to me after seeing a cover I created using some third-party tool. Nothing particularly exciting or original! “I can design one for you if you like!” She said. I love her eCards and paintings. I would never pass on such help!
  • Mindy Tsai
    The Aruba vacation came at a perfect time. It was right after I got a text from A that he thought I was too intense. Anyone who knew me well would be as surprised as me. He said, “I don’t think we are a good match.” I felt disappointed but life went on. I hopped on a plane and met my girlfriend in Aruba. My girlfriend and I had decided that it was going to
  • Mindy Tsai
    I met N three years ago. We could always chat up a storm no matter when. It did not work out between us but we kept in touch checking in on each other once or twice a year. Right after I quit OkCupid, I texted him to see how he was doing. The text conversation flowed and that made me decide that I would continue online dating again. He reminded me why I dated online

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