For the first time in my life, someone stood me up.
At age twenty-seven, Mindy Tsai breaks up with her long-time college boyfriend and starts an odyssey that continues to this day.
Where will she live? What does she like to do with her life? These questions never occurred to her before. Realizing she is lost and unwell, Mindy spends the next fourteen years putting the pieces of her life together. She doesn’t seek fulfillment in a relationship with another man, but instead, she learns to find contentment in herself and with her friends. When she finally feels it is time to start dating again, she is forty-one, and the experience is awkward.
I’m with Me details Mindy’s journey as a Taiwanese-American woman learning to navigate her place in life. As one of the 47 million unmarried women in the U.S., Mindy Tsai is living proof that a woman can live joyfully and meaningfully alone. Although not accepted as the ideal, being single has great advantages. I’m with Me shows there is more than one right way of going through life.
Early Readers' Reviews
Loved this book! Heartfelt, authentic, and hopeful
I very much loved reading this book. I really enjoyed reading about what it is like to be single and happy. All of us have a unique journey and there is no one single path to happiness. I loved how Mindy shared her journey with all the twists and turns but throughout there was a common theme of happiness that comes from within which Mindy had all along. I would highly recommend this book to anyone who is interested in learning more about cultivating your own inner joy. A must-read, I loved it! – NK
Authentic, heartfelt and so well-written
This book is an authentic portrayal of the author’s life as a single woman – she has a beautiful way of sharing her thoughts, insecurities, dating adventures and personal joys. I finished the book in a couple of days and found it very engaging. Single, married, or in-between – everyone will find experiences that resonate. Heartily recommend! – Zahida
I forgot I wasn’t having a private conversation with the author
Mindy Tsai writes about dating — and her life — in such an authentic, compelling way that I felt like we were two friends having a deep conversation over a coffee or as if the book was reading itself to me! It’s serious, then gently humorous at just the right time. Anyone who has dated will recognize the remarks that signal a date going sour. The uniqueness of her having schizophrenia is countered by experiences with friends and family that many of us can relate to. I admired Ms. Tsai’s strength in coming to terms with her single life. (Yet often nothing so tempts the Universe to change as when you declare you’ve accepted things as they are today…whatever happens in the coming years, I hope the author writes about it!) – Ruth
Heartwarming, reassuring, must read
This book is a lovely portrayal of different phases of romantic life. And the takeaway I arrived at was as heartwarming as it was reassuring. Must read to help feel at peace for any phase of romantic life. – MB
A message on self-discovery, hope and love
Mindy’s book is an easy read that keeps you tuned in. I really enjoyed getting a multidimensional glimpse of her life, while it is a book about one’s dating journey. Mindy shows up open, vulnerable, hopeful, grateful, caring, eager, curious but above all, appreciative of who and where she is in this world. One can certainly be happy or learn to be, without checking off all the societal boxes. – LL
Great book with hilarious lol points. Mindy provides candid and personal insights into online and offline dating that most of us often think about and never dare to say out loud. Immigrating to America from Taiwan as a young child, her journey depicts constant self-discovery, against the backdrop of 2 different cultures. Through changes from her early twenties, thirties and forties, she continuously finds meaningful fulfillment and love in family, friends, career, and passions whilst being careful to never compromise her independence and sense of self. What I love most about this book is Mindy’s process to curiously figure out whats right for her in her own time despite the social pressures of her culture, family, and friends. -James
Heartfelt personal experience of a woman who is trying to find love
This is the second book I read written by Mindy Tsai. I like her smooth writing skill with clear message of each sentence. So comfortable and easy to read. She writes about her journey of searching for love from a man and she found herself – the source of love comes within. The quest for love from the opposite sex is an age-old topic, Mindy uses her sweet and tender way to tell us the greatest love is the love in ourselves. We don’t need a partner to be complete, we are complete when we have love in our heart. Wonderful reading! – Wendy
A memoir of a journey from the chaos of normal life to one of peace
An honest story of the positives and negatives of single life mixed with the added difficulty of having a treatable mental disorder. Mindy Tsai has a lot of courage, read about it for yourself. – Andrew
Finally, a book about what it is like to be single and happy
I really enjoyed reading a book (finally!) about what it is like to be single and happy. With no ifs ands or buts following it. I also enjoyed reading about Tsai’s life generally as a young American immigrant from Taiwan. I liked her first memoir about living with schizophrenia, but this gave me the bigger picture and put it all in perspective. A very interesting read, particularly as our literature and culture are often so centered around the traditional story of meeting a partner and having children. and that is not the only way to live a great, interesting and fulfilling life. – TW
In early 2019, the idea to write my second memoir was born. When some skeleton material was written, Elizabeth Brinsfield and Tracy Quinn McLennan gave me their honest first impressions. There was not enough there, and I had to work on it more. When I had a fuller draft, my four female beta readers—Mehek Bapna, Sofia Bapna, Wendy Shieh, and Maria Mutch—provided valuable critiques, validated my message and encouraged me to continue. Elizabeth Brinsfield, my developmental and copy editor, helped me transition from a rough draft to a cohesive story with better clarity. Lastly, Hilary Crist, my final editor, helped me pull it all together into the final structure, form, and shape. Thank you all for being part of my writing journey.
To my Rachels, Michaels, and family, I am grateful and blessed to have you in my life. Without you and your love, I wouldn’t be able to tell this story.