For the first time in my life, someone stood me up.
At age twenty-seven, Mindy Tsai breaks up with her long-time college boyfriend and starts an odyssey that continues to this day.
Where will she live? What does she like to do with her life? These questions never occurred to her before. Realizing she is lost and unwell, Mindy spends the next fourteen years putting the pieces of her life together. She doesn’t seek fulfillment in a relationship with another man, but instead, she learns to find contentment in herself and with her friends. When she finally feels it is time to start dating again, she is forty-one, and the experience is awkward.
I’m with Me details Mindy’s journey as a Taiwanese-American woman learning to navigate her place in life. As one of the 47 million unmarried women in the U.S., Mindy Tsai is living proof that a woman can live joyfully and meaningfully alone. Although not accepted as the ideal, being single has great advantages. I’m with Me shows there is more than one right way of going through life.
In early 2019, the idea to write my second memoir was born. When some skeleton material was written, Elizabeth Brinsfield and Tracy Quinn McLennan gave me their honest first impressions. There was not enough there, and I had to work on it more. When I had a fuller draft, my four female beta readers—Mehek Bapna, Sofia Bapna, Wendy Shieh, and Maria Mutch—provided valuable critiques, validated my message and encouraged me to continue. Elizabeth Brinsfield, my developmental and copy editor, helped me transition from a rough draft to a cohesive story with better clarity. Lastly, Hilary Crist, my final editor, helped me pull it all together into the final structure, form, and shape. Thank you all for being part of my writing journey.
To my Rachels, Michaels, and family, I am grateful and blessed to have you in my life. Without you and your love, I wouldn’t be able to tell this story.